Browsing Quotes With Tag: friendship (85)
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Interestingly, a person can allow himself to be vulnerable on the surface of his life if he still retains a deep God/Christ-centered invulnerability. Then he can afford to be gentle and soft, to give and take, to give love without demanding anything in return – and that of course leaves him open to rebuffs and disappointments on occasion. But when a person is deeply vulnerable, centered on something other than God and therefore not securely rooted, he can’t afford to be vulnerable on the surface, or he risks being simply wiped out.
Speaker: Stephen CoveySource: Divine Center, thePosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 9:00 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
Inevitably, any time we are too vulnerable we feel the need to protect ourselves from further wounds. Often the best defense is a good offense, and sometimes this manifests itself in cynicism, the defense of the mind, for when we expect nothing we will never be disappointed. So the attack frequently manifests itself in sarcasm, in cutting humor, in sharpness of tongue, in criticalness, and in anything which will keep from exposing the soft, vulnerable tenderness within. Each partner then will tend to wait upon the initiative of the other for love, only again to be disappointed but also to be confirmed as to the rightness of his or her own past accusations.
Speaker: Stephen CoveySource: Divine Center, thePosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 8:57 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
It is more noble to give oneself to one individual than to labor diligently for the salvation of the masses.
Speaker: Dag HammarskjoldSource: Divine Center, thePosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 8:38 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
In the narrow sense, activity in the Church is an occasional thing – basically meaning attending meetings and living certain well-defined and minimal laws such as tithing and the Word of Wisdom…It’s fairly easy to attend church meetings and yet be mentally and emotionally elsewhere. As they run from meeting to meeting or interview to interview, such Mormons are often characterized as poor Christians, bad neighbors, and insensitive to pressing human needs.
Speaker: Stephen CoveySource: Divine Center, thePosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 8:37 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
Often [friend-centeredness] results, finally, in his losing the very thing desired, as he strives to become all things to all people. He ends up becoming nothing to everyone, including himself.
Speaker: Stephen CoveySource: Divine Center, thePosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 8:36 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
I am going to meet people today who talk too much – people who are selfish, egotistical, and ungrateful. But I won’t be surprised or disturbed, for I couldn’t imagine a world without such people.
Speaker: Marcus AureliusPosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 8:12 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
In the long run every man will pay the penalty for his own misdeeds. The man who remembers this will be angry with no one, indignant with no one, revile no one, blame no one, offend no one, hate no one.
Speaker: EpictetusPosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 8:12 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
The first thing to learn in intercourse with others is noninterference with their own peculiar ways of being happy.
Speaker: William JamesPosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 7:48 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
You deserve very little credit for being what you are – and remember, the man who comes to you irritated, bigoted, unreasoning, deserves very little discredit for being what he is.
Speaker: Dale CarnegiePosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 7:47 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
The reason why rivers and seas receive the homage of a hundred mountain streams is that they keep below them. Thus they are able to reign over all the mountain streams. So the sage, wishing to be above men, putteth himself below them; wishing to be before them, he putteth himself behind them. Thus, though his place be above men, they do not feel his weight; though his place be before them, they do not count it an injury.
Speaker: Lao TszePosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 7:46 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
If you want enemies, excel your friends; but if you want friends, let your friends excel you.
Speaker: Francois de la RouchefoucaldPosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 7:45 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
The man who thinks only of himself is hopelessly uneducated. He is not educated, no matter how instructed he may be.
Speaker: Nicholas Murray ButlerPosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 7:44 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.
Speaker: Alfred AdlerPosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 7:42 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
Speaker: Dale CarnegiePosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 7:41 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
Give honest, sincere appreciation. Be ‘hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise,’ and people will cherish your words and treasure them and repeat them over a lifetime – repeat them years after you have forgotten them.
Speaker: Dale CarnegiePosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 7:37 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
To know all is to forgive all.
Speaker: AnonymousPosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 7:31 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain – and most fools do.
But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.Speaker: Dale CarnegiePosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 7:29 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
I will speak ill of no man… and speak all the good I know of everybody.
Speaker: Benjamin FranklinPosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 7:28 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
If you will come to me and say ‘let us sit down and take counsel together, and, if we differ from one another, understand why it is that we differ from one another, just what the points at issue are,’ we will presently find that we are not so far apart after all, that the points on which we differ are few and the points on which we agree are many, and that if we only had the patience and the candor and the desire to get together, we will get together.
Speaker: Woodrow WilsonPosted: 21 Aug 2008 at 7:17 AMComments: None... Be the first to comment! -
“Charlie, don’t you get it? I can’t feel that. It’s sweet and everything, but it’s like you’re not even there sometimes. It’s great that you can listen and be a shoulder to someone, but what about when someone doesn’t need a shoulder. What if they need the arms or something like that? You can’t just sit there and put everybody’s lives ahead of yours and think that counts as love. You just can’t. You have to do things.”
“Like what?” I asked. My mouth was dry.
“I don’t know. Like take their hands when the slow song comes up for a change. Or be the one who asks someone for a date. Or tell people what you need. Or what you want.”Speaker: Stephen ChboskyPosted: 20 Aug 2008 at 4:46 PMComments: None... Be the first to comment!